“Do not do more today than you can completely recover from tomorrow.” ✨ ~Gregory McKeown

Supergirl, spicy margaritas, and what I’m learning about capacity right now. (#425)

I’m a fan of superheroes, and I loved the Supergirl series on the CW. One thing that always stuck with me from that show was a conversation between Kara (Supergirl) and her boss, Cat:

Kara: “I just don't know how you do it, Ms. Grant. I don't understand how you juggle it all.”

Cat: “you have stumbled upon the most annoying question of the century…How do you juggle it all? You learn, that’s how. You start with two balls before adding another. I figured out how to be brilliant in business, and then I added being a brilliant mother. Far too many women burn out trying to do too much before they're ready.”

Kara: “So you can have it all?”

Cat: “Of course. Just not all at once, and not right away. And not with that hair. Use conditioner, for God’s sake.”

Cat’s hair joke aside 😂, she made a solid point:

You can have it all. Just not all at once.

This conversation perfectly captures something I struggle with a lot as a juggler: the difference between what I want to do and what I can actually hold right now.

C is for Capacity 🧺

After talking about automations and tiny breaks the past couple of weeks, I realized everything in this series comes back to the same thing: working with your capacity instead of fighting it.

Some days, I feel like I can handle it all: writing, work, caregiving, emails, errands, exercise, side hustle progress, cleaning, the whole nine.

Other days? I do three things and feel completely wiped out, wondering where all my energy went.

Capacity is not just about time or energy. It’s also about:

• The season of life you’re in

• What your body and mind can handle at this moment

• How many decisions you’ve already made today (decision fatigue is real!)

• The emotional labor you’re carrying in the background - the stuff that’s quietly draining but huge

Learning my Human Design as a 6/2 Generator helped me understand this better. I have tons of energy for things that feel like a “heck yes,” but I can drain myself fast if I push through the “meh” stuff too long.

I need times to be “on” and times to “turtle” (my version of hermiting). It’s still a work in progress, but I’m learning to honor my capacity without feeling guilty.

As side hustlers, we can fall into “all or nothing” thinking. Either we're crushing it at 100%, or we feel like we're failing.

(Feel free to mute those “5 a.m. cold showers + two hours of deep work before your day job” posts. 😑)

Your capacity isn’t fixed. It can shift depending on the day. Or the season.

Honoring it isn’t giving up. It’s listening to your body and adapting. It’s noticing what’s possible today and trusting that there will be time for everything else later.

What does this look like for you? Maybe it's:

• Working on your side hustle for 15 minutes instead of trying to find a 2-hour block of time

• Focusing on one social platform instead of trying to be everywhere

• Batch-cooking on Sundays when you have energy, instead of stressing about daily meal prep

• Saying no to that networking event so you can say yes to rest

For me, it’s:

• Calling it a day and treating myself to a spicy margarita (sometimes that’s exactly what I need)

• Stepping away from my laptop to clean the kitchen when I don’t have the focus in the moment to work on that project

• Focusing on what’s truly time-sensitive and moving everything else to next week

• Making space for more fun, laughter, and summer adventures (and honoring my inner kid)

Your capacity is information, not judgment. Listen to it.

It’s not about doing less. It’s about choosing what matters right now and letting that be enough.

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💬 How’s your capacity feeling lately? What’s one way you’ve been honoring your limits or something you’d like to try?

I’d love to hear how you are navigating this, too.

On to the picks!

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A few gems for your weekend scroll…

• 💌. 8 Permission Slips for Adults (that you didn’t know you needed). I loved every one of these. Such good reminders that we can say no, rest now, and let go of things that don’t serve us anymore (even gifts!). I highlighted the important bits and saved them to Readwise so they’ll keep popping up when I need them. Which one resonates most for you right now?
  

• 🚶🏾‍♀️. When in doubt, go for a walk. ‘Nuff said. One of my favorite go-to resets. While I may or may not be walking that 10K this year (lol, tbd), walking is still one of my favorite ways to clear my head and get some low-impact moves in. It makes everything feel a bit more manageable.
  

• 💻. The truth about building an online business: it’s f*cking hard. Ohhh yes. This post from

  Marie Vandoorne
  is such a good reminder that the online business road is tough and unpredictable, but also worth it. My favorite takeaway:

The vital ingredient here is doing something you and your readers value. It's the sense of helping others and getting better together.

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• 😍. Last issue’s top pick: Advice for Making Life More Whimsical & Joyful

“I’ll take a risk…make a change and breakaway.” 🕊️~Kelly Clarkson

• 🎤. ASK: I’d love to book 2 more paid speaking gigs this year (I’ve got one lined up - more on that soon!). If you know of any events, panels, podcasts, or conferences looking for speakers, I’d be so grateful if you’d pass my name along. I love talking about side hustles and newsletters, but I’d also be excited to craft an inspirational talk, too.
  

• 🤩. Feeling overwhelmed or stuck? Need some clarity? I gotchu. Grab a pep talk!

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#classifieds 🗞

• 📓. Stuck or pivoting? Ruth’s sharing her business journey in real time: what’s working, what’s not, and all the messy in-between. It’s honest, thoughtful, and very relatable.
  

• 🎙️. Side hustle tip: Use Voicenotes to brain dump out loud or record your next meeting. It transcribes as you talk, so you can come back later and organize it all.
  

• 🚀. You’ve got content. You’ve got ideas. Christine’s book is your guide to turning all that into a course that sells. A solid next step if you’re ready to earn online.

  (like these? let’s partner up!)

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